Discussion starters: 

1. How do you feel when you get something wrong?

   • Are there common emotional reactions that you’ve noticed in yourself? 

   • Are these emotional responses the same or different when others get things wrong?

2. Read John 21, and particularly consider the way Jesus reinstates Peter in what he was asking him to do. What stands out to you in this interaction? 

3. Spend some time looking at the colour-wheel of your life (open here), to consider your own life and something God may be highlighting to you. Steve suggested that on this colour wheel,  

   • Where your relationship with GOD and OTHERS intersects determines what you do with your RESOURCES. 

   • Where your relationship to SELF and GOD intersects determines DIRECTION. 

   • Where your relationship with SELF and OTHERS intersects determines life RHYTHMS. 

4. is there somewhere that you are living out of alignment? (This may be brought to your attention by one of the questions below, or simply as you reflect on this area) 

5. What might it take to step back toward love in this area of life? 

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1. GOD: Knowing God as Father, trust, freedom to express, honesty, feeling of acceptance / resistance 

+ Do I experience God as embracing of me, or disappointed in me?  

+ How honest am I able to be with him?  

+ Are there barriers to trust I don’t know what to do about?   

2. OTHERS: Your closest relationships - partner, family, key friendships  

+ Is there anyone I’m avoiding or withdrawing from?  

+ Where am I expecting someone else to carry something I won’t face in myself?  

+ Am I becoming more open and loving, or closed and self-protective?  

3. SELF: Your inner life - Emotions, anxiety, self-talk, shame, joy, peace  

+ What do I do with difficult feelings?  

+ Where do I feel shame, and how does it shape my behaviour?  

+ Am I becoming more integrated and free, or more divided and hidden?  

4. RESOURCES: energy, abilities, possessions, money: generosity, contentment  

+ What role does money play in my sense of security or worth?   

+ Am I living with a posture of grasping or trusting?   

+ Am I intentional and joyful in giving of what I have, or reactive, or reluctant?  

5. DIRECTION: Desires, calling, priorities, what you’re aiming toward  

+ Do I live with a sense of quiet contentment, or quiet dissatisfaction?  

+ What desires keep surfacing that I’m ignoring or suppressing?  

+ Am I making decisions based on a sense of purpose, comfort, or fear?  

6. RHYTHMS: Work, rest, sleep, phone use, habits- what your days actually look like.  

+ What consistently drains me, and what currently restores me?  

+ Am I living at a sustainable pace, or always falling behind and catching up?  

+ Where do I resist work, or rest, or my responsibilities, and why?